part of the problem is that you internalize things for way too long and then when you reach your limit, all of that suppressed rage comes pouring out of you with no way to stop it until it's exhausted itself. is there a solution to that? I'm not sure. I know I've gotten better at letting things be said and not internalizing as much as I used to, but I'm sure not the poster child for good behavior.
try not to beat yourself up too badly. If the reason for the anger was indeed valid and what you're regretting is how you said it, then be regretful over the way you said it without making an apology for feeling the way you do.
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